My heart had a new view today..

After having the father of my children be pretty angry at me for the last week or so, not that this is anything new, I couldn't help but look at my babies differently today. Seriously, The man has lost it. Telling the mother of his children to dig a hole and bury myself in it. I know he says all of these mean childish things when he is either angry and or drinking, but still for some reason it hurts and I still get shocked by it. But, now I can see looking at my children how happy I am and how happy they are with me, even though they miss him, they really are happy with me. Thats what I want to see. That is what I will look at and I hope they will remember this too. The laughs, giggles and funny jokes we share. Cause that is more what life is all about. The parts that hurt will hurt bad, but the other parts that make us smile and laugh and love, those are the real parts in life that will be with us forever to remind us how life can be.  So on with how our morning went with my hearts new view.. 

The alarm went off loudly and way before I was ready to hear it, like it always does Monday through Friday and then its time to gently nudge and nudge the little ones until they get up. And in the back of my mind, Im always praying and hoping for them to get up in good moods. I got lucky today, they were smiling and giggling and ready to get dressed and even have their hair done in pig tails. I love their hair that way. Too cute!!

Then as they ate their breakfast and I sipped my coffee, I realized what this angry ex of mine is missing out. My heart had a new view!! Not only am I lucky enough to have this time with them, but Im also lucky enough to not take it for granted. Yes, I checked my email and looked at my Facebook on my iPhone as they ate, but they were still right in front of me chomping down their cereal and talking to each other about whether they had gym today or art. 
I then put down my phone and did my usual,  "you two have a great day today, eat your lunch and be nice to your friends, I'll miss you and love you both so much" speech and then we were off running to the van. We drove today because Alyssa had a project and it was raining. She worked so hard on it, so I wasn't going to let it get wet or messed up by friends on the bus. 

They give me big bear hugs every single morning and funny wet kisses right before jumping out of the van and I tell them I'll see them at the bus stop. Then with big smiles and blowing kisses, they were off to have their day in KG and 2nd grade. They are growing up so fast.

And I won't miss out on one single thing if I can help it. Im going to be there for it all and that makes me and my heart so happy. Yes, I am still sad that at this point, their father isn't there to see all or any of this, even missing things at their school that they are so proud of. Yes, I keep hearing that its his loss, but they lose out too. I know it hurts their lil hearts. But, Im there, their big sister is there, their big brother, their family is there and even Zach. And I know they won't forget that. 

So with my new view on what I get and what I will never take for granted, I will go now to enjoy more of their day and be back with more updates about my wonderful moments that I get to have with each and everyone of my 4 children!!